Sunday Thoughts: May 5, 2019

Where the river flows, magic goes. Where it stops, nobody knows.
— 6-year old Danetha (excerpt from poem)

Total spent this week: $929.67

This week was a blissfully productive and prosperous. Here’s a peek behind the curtain of the life of a lifestyle entrepreneur.

Money & Mimosas

The week began with a luncheon at the Sharon Heights Country Club in Menlo Park. A big thank to the Chairman Mom organization for the invitation to the 8th Annual Ms. Luncheon. “The Ms. Luncheon celebrates individuals who have contributed significantly—often against great odds—to advance the rights of women and girls and to increase awareness of the injustices women face on account of their gender.”

The honorees were Michele Dauber, Debra Katz and Lisa Banks. Katz and Banks are the founding partners at Katz, Marshall & Banks, a D.C. law firm. In the fall of 2018, Banks and Katz represented Dr. Christine Blasey Ford in the Senate confirmation hearings of Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh.

Dauber, a law professor at Stanford University, led the successful two-year campaign to recall former Judge Aaron Persky, after he sentenced Brock Turner to just six months in jail for sexually assaulting an unconscious woman. L

I left the event incredibly inspired by the honorees and all of the attendees I met. We are all working together, in our respective arenas, to advance the prosperity of women, humankind and the planet.

Money & Mimosas

Feeling such a high after the event, I approached the rest of my week with grace, ease and serenity.

I chatted with a digital bank, who recently raised just under $5 million, that contacted me inquiring about partnering with Money & Mimosas. And signed one new client.

I caught up with Femily, the sought after corporate gender strategist, for a luxurious lunch date at the Lake Chalet in Oakland to chat about business, life and all the things. Had a productive meeting with Omni Fight Club which led to a fun project with the Socialites and Athleta (a B-Corp owned by Gap).

Me with Emily, “Femily”, Howe at Lake Chalet in Oakland, CA.

Me with Emily, “Femily”, Howe at Lake Chalet in Oakland, CA.

I also had a fantastic time being interviewed by the Ohio Society of CPAs about my definition of success in preparation for our Women, Wealth and Wellness conference on June 27. I’ll share the podcast episode with you once it goes live.

And of course, this week wouldn’t have been complete without some dancing, my workouts, nature, time with my beloved and quality girl time with the Socialites.

Although my Soul Cycle class on Wednesday morning was just ok - not my fave music but I got my sweat on, my other workouts were fabulous. And I had a blast hiking with my beloved on Saturday and an incredible hike and lunch day out on Sunday with the Socialites.

Out line dancing at Bourbon Highway in Walnut Creek, CA.

Out line dancing at Bourbon Highway in Walnut Creek, CA.

Good times at Bourbon Highway!

Good times at Bourbon Highway!

Me with Nick during our hike in Redwood Regional.

Me with Nick during our hike in Redwood Regional.

Hiking with the Socialites in Castle Rock.

Hiking with the Socialites in Castle Rock.

Hiking with the Socialites!

Hiking with the Socialites!

Nature is so pretty.

Nature is so pretty.

As the rain rolls in this evening, my thoughts are floating back to my interview with the Ohio Society of CPAs. Reflecting on “what does the definition of success look like to me?”

It’s so easy to get caught up in comparing myself to others. Comparing social media follower counts, staff number, sponsorship deals, our bodies, our love life, our money.

Comparison is healthy if it’s a motivating factor. For example, when I see Carmen Electra’s body, I don’t feel bad about myself. I feel inspired and motivated to get my ass moving and my obliques tight AF.

When I met with a local Walnut Creek entrepreneur who has built an incredible empire, I am inspired to continue my path to do the same. But in my own way.

Comparison becomes unhealthy when it paralyzes us or makes us beat ourselves up for not being where “we should be.”

It’s a thin line, and only we as individuals know when we’ve crossed it.

It’s a subtle feeling at first. And if you don’t pay attention to it, it will continue to grow until it consumes your entire being and wreaks havoc on your mind, body and spirit.

This is why it’s so important to check in with ourselves regularly. And to define success on our own terms. That’s why I do a weekly money date - to have a pulse on my financial wellness. And why I journal do a deep reflection on Sunday evenings - to check in with my desires, close the week with grace, and begin the upcoming week with an open heart and clear mind.

Many people may think that money is how I define success. But, like a luscious garden - that is only one plant in my world of beauty. The others include freedom, self-expression, romance, good times, partnership and testing the limits.

These regular tune-ins are vital so that we don’t lose ourselves, forget what makes us come alive, what sexually turns us on. I can’t tell you how many private clients (particularly moms) that I’ve worked with that come to me and they are literally dried up.

Like a rose that hasn’t had water in weeks. Wrinkly, hard, crisp, withered, dull, spiritless. Just going through the motions with no sense of purpose.

With the new moon last night, I invite you to take a moment this evening to check in with yourself.

Gently.

Ever so gently.

And ask yourself, what turns me on? What delights you?

Turn off your phone. Turn off your social media. Grab your journal.

And write.

Write until you feel joy in your bones. Delight in your soul. Excitement in your pussy.

Do I have your attention now?

Where the river flows, magic goes. Where it stops, nobody knows.

About Danetha: Danetha is a serial entrepreneur and manages a portfolio of companies as an investor and owner. Money & Mimosas, her lifestyle brand, is a social club and financial education blog. She is known as the money mentor for ambitious women and been named a top 40 under 40 accounting professional by CPA Practice Advisor and a millennial entrepreneur to watch by the office of Congresswoman Barbara Lee.

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